I was 28, and my age is very relevant to this story.
I had started a relationship a few months earlier. It was fun, and it was shiny. I was fulfilled.
I was drinking coffee, just outside of Harvard Square. A young man ran by. I would put his age at twenty, but probably not more than that. He was wearing Harvard sweatpants and no shirt.
I felt several emotions simultaneously.
The first was lust.
The second was disgust at said lust. I’m not even thirty, and already I’m a dirty old woman? How is that fair? Gross!
I felt anger and resentment at this young man, for making me feel these things. What a little pervert! How dare he render me a pathetic, horny crone!
I felt a visceral empathy for all the older men who had sexually harassed me over the years, on summer days when I showed a bit too much skin.
But I also felt a renewed contempt for them. They’d been where I was, but they’d chosen worse. By vocalizing their thoughts, they had inflicted them on me. This young man, in contrast, would never know that I existed. I’d give him no cause to notice me.
I love my dignity, my sense of decorum and piety. As such, I’m not going to debase myself by offering a come-hither stare to a random undergraduate. If I must engage in unladylike behavior, I’d rather do it onstage in front of multiple onlookers, for I am a serious actress. And like: Bawdiness isn’t truly crude if it’s part of a larger art. I once “obscenely” chugged malt liquor on my knees, flanked by a bunch of puppets, but it was OK because I was playing Lady Macbeth, in the style of Alfred Jarry. Ah, theater. Ah, college. Kind of wish three of my professors hadn’t been in the audience, but whatever.
Where was I? Oh right, my precious dignity.
Also, I love my boyfriend, who’s hotter than this Harvard child, and probably even nerdier.
And also, this young man deserves his space. He hasn’t actually invaded mine. His body hasn’t violated me, just because it’s shirtless and pretty.
This entire thought process happened within like…a fourth of a second.
I returned my attention to my coffee. The guy continued on his run, his day, his life.
And I eventually married my boyfriend. But that’s a story for another drink.
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Alaina Hammond is a poet, playwright, fiction writer, and visual artist. Her poems, plays, short stories, paintings, drawings and photographs have been published both online and in print. Publications include Spinozablue, Third Wednesday Magazine, [Alternate Route], Paddler Press, Verse-Virtual, Macramé Literary Journal, Sublunary Review, Quail Bell Magazine, Superpresent, Clockwise Cat, Ranger Magazine, Troublemaker Firestarter, Fowl Feathered Review, The Ravens Perch, 10 By 10 Flash, Waffle Fried, House of Arcanum, Synchronized Chaos, Well Read Magazine, Hidden Peak Press, and Third Street Review. @alainaheidelberger on Instagram.