I sat melting into a lounge chair by the community pool watching my wife and young daughter splash around in the shallow end. We didn’t live in Swaying Pines, but we’d joined the pool as friends of the community. We lived close by in San Anselmo. Swaying Pines was a community of ranch style houses tucked away under the shaved hills that bordered San Anselmo to the north. It consisted almost exclusively of families not unlike mine: middle aged men, a little soft around the middle from years of desk work, who had younger, fitter wives and between one and five pre-pubescent children. I was drinking a west coast IPA in a Stanley thermos cup, and the edible I’d taken before leaving home was one of the good ones, slicing through my anxiety clean and leaving only a sublime, feathery detachment in its wake. The lifeguards were all high schoolers, and it was not lost on me that if I were to enter sudden cardiac arrest while swimming that not one of them was strong enough to pull my fat, bloated body out of the deep end. In fact, looking around, I doubted the collective inhabitants of the pool would be able to drag me out. I wondered if this was something I should bring up to the board. I considered conferring with my wife, but her response would be little more than mocking my morbidity. From behind my Maui Jims, I watched the young French Au pier, who’d been showing up this season, sunning by the kiddie pool and barely watching the pig tailed little girl she came with. It was difficult to determine exactly what made the French woman so tantalizing, but the effortless way her swimsuit hung off her instead of hugging her body was part of it. She was neither overweight nor toned, but someplace in the middle where few women reside, having more the appearance of being soft, hips thick with baby fat, ass bubble round and breasts perky. A sort of effortless and perfect femininity. She was keenly aware of not only my leering eyes but those of every dad at the pool who watched from ridiculous side eyed, neck breaking angles in an effort to make sure their wives didn’t notice, but of course they did, rolling their eyes in resignation. What did it matter? What were any of us going to do with her? What was anyone going to do with her besides ruin their life? Most I could offer would be finishing on her stomach after ninety seconds then falling asleep. At some point in middle age the fantasies become far more interesting than the potential indiscretions. Nothing is worse than the actual sex. Flabby bodies breathing heavily and praying for the end to come. I loved my wife, but what was the point in us having sex anymore? We only did so because she wanted a second child. I did not, but was powerless, brow beaten and too weak, disengaged and indifferent to fight her advances. With disgusted purpose she rode me nightly to milk the baby batter from my loins. Occasionally we’d get drunk and make out first like there was life in us, but the morning would bring such retrospective embarrassment we could hardly look at each other while eating breakfast with our daughter. My daughter who I worried would not take well to the arrival of a sibling. Because we became parents later in life, she had been so purposefully reared, doted and obsessed over that I feared she could not possibly share our attention and affection with another. And in some way, I hated that she would have to. I hated the growing resentment in my heart for a child not yet conceived. I hated my weakness in not being firmer with my wife. My wife who believed there was a stigma attached to being an only child. I disagreed. I felt we lived in a time where being an only child made more sense than ever. With each paltry ejaculation I worried I might be ruining my daughter’s life. I was the only child until my younger brother was born. At four, my mother found me one night standing by his crib with a pillow pressed over his face. Did I really know what I was doing? Yes, I did. Strange how she looked at me like I was a monster but seemed to forget the next morning. Could she not bring herself to believe what I was capable of, or did she too understand the disservice she had done me? I tried to push these thoughts from my head as my daughter wobbled over demanding a snack. My wife followed and stood over me dripping cold water. The Au pair left the little girl she watched to sleep swaddled on a shaded lounge chair and approached the deep end, tip-toed along its side and dipped her foot in. The gazes of the collective dads followed. The wives shared knowing glances. She dove in seamless. The dads shuffled in their chairs. She swam most of the length of the pool underwater before surfacing, showing off impressive lung capacity. She free styled over to the steps and pulled herself up. It was the moment every man was waiting for. Dripping wet she tilted her head to the side and squeezed the water from her hair. She fixed her bikini wedgie. She adjusted her top, jiggling her perky breasts. Then she returned to her chair, toweled off, sat down, put on headphones and pulled out her phone and the air was let back into the place. The sounds returned. The kids resumed playing. The wives shook their heads. The wind rippled the swim team-colored tassels that hung over the pool. Cloud shadows slid across the surrounding hills. The lifeguard’s whistle blew.
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Wilson Koewing lives and writes in Marin County, California.